PERFECTION lies in imPERFECTION !

Weekends are normally devoted to family when everybody gets a chance to sit, eat, and have fun together! But the problem arises when it comes to watching the idiot box together. The more the no. of channels has risen, the more difficult it is to decide as to what to miss out watching. Goodness gracious that no SAAS BAHU shows are shown during weekends; else there would have been several world wars in every second home over TV. 

On a recent Sunday, I & my family were having a good time together & we sat to watch the TV. It wasn't difficult to find something interesting to watch, thanks to the Bollywood award events. Most of the Sundays in the month of Jan & Feb are usually dedicated to award ceremonies on TV. Gone are the days when there were just a handful of award functions & people used to long to watch them on TV. But making a choice over what to watch is a task. In this confusion, I came across an event WAVE which, in no time I figured out, was about celebrating Womanhood. Being a woman, I felt pride in it that there is an event which actually gives recognition to woman & acknowledges them for their achievements; be it small or huge.

There were woman not only from the film industry but also from various other streams which we normally are least inclined towards. But what took me for a surprise was not just the entire idea of awarding woman; it was something more that enthralled me, a sort of realization that awakened me & enlightening experience which inspired me to the core. Among all the successful women present there, there was a special lady Miss MALINI CHIB, whose limitations made her special

Miss Malini Chib, holds two Masters Degrees, is an activist, an academic, a lecturer, a writer and a researcher. She is the Founder and Co-Chairperson of the ADAPT Rights Group of the organization, and also heads the Library and Media Services. She lent her skills organizing an 'Inclusive Job Fair' for disabled youth.

You must be wondering what is so special about her achievements. Well, I wasn’t amazed just with all of the above, what actually moved me was the real Malini Chib, her real achievement which evolved through her failure. I may not address it as a failure anymore coz she made the best out of it. Malini has Cerebral Palsy, a neurological condition similar to adult stroke, which makes body movement and speech extremely difficult. From a diagnosis of brain damage and mental retardation, to the formidable fight that she and her parents put up over the years, she carved her way & proved herself a winner.

As life had become a tear and a smile for her, Malini narrates in her book “One Little Finger” , the story of her heroic battle against adversity, prejudice, stigmas, stereotypes, of her will to succeed and her search for an identity in a contrary world. And in the process of self-realization, she has become a beacon of hope for everyone

Had it not been for Malini Chib’s disorder, she would have been a regular successful person who may not have been awarded. So the award for her achievements wasn’t just for her tangible achievements, it was for something more deep & beyond the physical existence; for her achievements over her disability.

Many a times, we get frustrated with petty issues & complain God for not making us perfect. We are so lost in the entire idea of being perfect that we don’t even realize whatever God has given us, makes us perfect in our special way. We are blind folded by the word PERFECTION; hence we overlook the good things He bestowed on us.

Each one of us is blessed with unique qualities which make us special in our own ways & it’s on us how we perceive them, as disabilities or use them to be perfect. Perfection doesn’t come with a perfect body; it actually comes with a beautiful heart & a balanced mind. This life will throw stones at us, we will come across speed breakers & potholes on our path but we need to surpass them. It’s our choice whether to give up & let our limitations win or stand up steady to tell the difficulties that we are more difficult!

Malini Chib is not only a perfect example but also a perfect Ideal & Inspiration for the entire human race. She reminds us how perfect we are, how gifted we are to be born without any disabilities, but she also inspires us that no limitation is so huge to let our spirits die. No disability can disable the will power & determination in us.

Just the way the word 'impossible' says I M POSSIBLE; Malini Chib converted her imperfection into I M PERFECT !  

 

Malini Chib is the perfect teacher who can teach us the most important lesson of life; “PERFECTION is hidden in imPERFECTION”

CHEERzzz...

Don't Kill JESSICA !

No One Killed Jessica....the most talked about & long awaited film these days for obvious reasons that its based on a true story of  "Jessica Lal" but what added to the anxiety for this film are veteran actors Rani Mukherjee & Vidya Balan. This curiosity & anxiety struck me hard & I rushed to watch this movie on the second day of release. When I settled down on my seat in the theater waiting for the show to begin, I already knew somewhere that the movie would be worth humongous accolades, the promos conveyed it all! Being a person with interest in media, I had kept in mind to notice every minute details of the technicalities & creative aspects of the film as I felt that this film could make me aware of something more than just the case of  "Jessica Lal".

As the film begun, I was all geared up for the interesting journey of "Jessica Lal", to encounter the reality through the director's eye!

I think u guys must be feeling that this write up is a review of the film. Dont worry pals, I am not here to give u any reviews about the work, technicalities, creativity, the screenplay, edit, etc. etc. I am sure u must have had enuf of those by now! What I am about to share here with u guys is beyond the cinematic review, something what I realized at the hindsight!

Now continuing with my story of watching this wonderful representation of realistic & meaningful cinema... the experience was surely mesmerizing & being a FACEBOOK addict (juz like many of u reading this) I wanted to post an update about this the moment I stepped out of the theater. So many thoughts, so many feelings I wanted to put into words that I couldn't resist myself from writing an entire post on this!

Its astonishing how, while watching the film, I got so carried away with the entire realistic feel & look of the movie that I actually could relate to & empathize with each emotion the deceased protagonist & the super girl of the movie conveyed. And when I stepped out of the theater, I had learnt more than what I had expected, more than jus the technicalities, more than just the creativity, I had learnt that how powerful & loud is the voice of Silence! How a single ray of hope finds its own way out to the dawn from the deepest & darkest tunnels of failure & dissatisfaction!

Most of us feel & believe that words are the strongest mode to express our emotions, but there is something which is more powerful than words, more louder than the voice of words, creates more impact than the harshness of words, that doesn't need to be heard but needs to be felt..the voice of SILENCE ! The character of "Sabrina" which Vidya Balan portrays, clearly displays that it takes courage to be silent..it takes courage to win through silence..it takes courage to be patient enough to let the power of silence pervade in the most loudest place. Its easy to give up silence & be harsh with words, but whats difficult & worthy of applause is to have the courage & strength to be silent! Most of us face this difficulty of holding on to silence in our routine lives & often give up, coz we lack patience & we hate to wait.... Many believe that being silent is a sign of being fragile but the truth is that one needs to understand the power & depth of silence to know the power of Silence & being Silent is actually a sign of courage!

We need to understand that Hope is the only power that keeps us going even through the toughest & most rudest & meanest times. Hope is the be-all & end-all for any being, the one who never leaves hope, is the one who  sails through & comes out a winner. I know its somewhere quite easy to write all this & give the so called GYAAN about it, but when it comes to implementing it, its way too difficult at certain stages of life. Sometimes the wait becomes too long & we loose on our patience, but try to bounce back with a new hope that there will be an end to this wait, this prolongation... its just a test of our hope, patience & silence & we all want to be a winner. So never give in & defeat the failure with Hope, Patience & Strength of Silence. The first ray of sunlight comes exactly after the moment when its the darkest at nite ! So guys its all about Perseverance... Just be rigid & adamant, of course, at good things, to win any situation.

A very nice thought has come to my mind inspired from this season of the year, I read about this one few days back in the Speaking Tree.. "A snowflake is one of God's most fragile creation, but look what they can do when they are stick together!"

We always underestimate the power of the weak & fragile & take it for granted that the weak is the looser! But this actually isn't the case..there's immense power beneath the rug, jus dig in it a lil hard & u will encounter the POWER deep within !

There's a Jessica, Sabrina & Meera in each one of us... we just need to meet her!

Take Care.. Keeep Smiling :)

Thank your Santaclaus :)

25th December 2010, the last Christmas of this fast paced decade.

I know it’s a lil late to write about Christmas now, as we are already in the new decade on the 4th day of the New Year. But as they say, better late than never & for something’s, it’s actually never too late :)

Holi, Diwali, birthdays, weddings all were over by the year end & now it was time for the most awaited last festival of the year 2010..Christmas.
Christmas is the only festival & occasion which is the most closest to any child's heart. Thanks to our dearest cutest loving Santa Claus :) who gives us a chance to make a wish & he would make it true on Christmas.

In our childhood, most of us believed that there actually existed a Santa Claus who would come down on Christmas Eve through the chimney & place our gifts near our Christmas tree. We all believed in this story & for many of us, it did actually come true, thanks to our loving parents who always knew our wishes & knew what we wanted as gifts & made them true. But being kids, we actually believed that Santa Claus visited our homes every Christmas & we always longed to meet Santa Claus & waited the entire year for Christmas. We could only see glimpses of him in cartoons, hoping that one day, we might just get lucky enough to meet him, sit on his lap & tour the world in his cart loaded with gifts ridden by reindeer. 

As we grew up, we realized that it was all our imagination that kept him alive. Such an image & depiction of Santa Claus merely exited in cartoons which are made to please the kids. Never did we give it a thought that there could be a real Santa Claus in our lives in the most unexpected & unprecedented form. When we were kids, our parents were our Santa Claus but we never realized this & now as grown ups, even though we know this fact, never are we grateful to them for being there as our Santa Claus. Seldom do we cherish their presence in our lives as our friend, philosopher, guide, mentor & parents. 

When I see the lil kids on road as beggars or the people who are less fortunate than us or even orphans who might not be even aware of who their parents are, I feel blessed that God gave me the most wonderful parents who are my Santa Claus since the moment I was conceived.

I feel truly gratified by their presence in my life, they do their very best to make my all wishes come true & make me feel the most blessed child on earth. They forgo their own needs & desires for me, just to see a smile on my face; they face all the pains so that I can lead a happy & the most wonderful life. Just like Santa Claus, even our parents expect nothing in return of all the happiness & pleasures they give us. This Christmas, I wanna thank them for all that they have done for me & all the love they showered on me even when I was at my worst with them. For all the times, they forgave me & gave me another chance to improve myself. For all the times they trusted me, laid their faith in me, they let me fly like a bird, to take charge of my life, for all the sleepless nites they had when I was up late nite studying for my exams, for all the times they starved when I was unwell, for the tears that rolled in mumma’s eye on my 1st day of school, for the times they stood outside the exam centers waiting for me to finish up the exam & take me home safely, for all the times they fed me the best food, gave me the best clothes I could ever wear, teaching me nice things, imparting core values in me & making me who I am today !

I do several mistakes, commit errors, at times misunderstand their possessiveness & care & sometimes even hurt them with harsh words.. but they still love me unconditionally despite of everything, forever…

My life couldn't have been better if not for them! They make my each day Christmas for me !

I hope all you guys had a nice & a wonderful Christmas & Santa Claus did make your wishes true… I wish he always does!
But don’t ever let go off the real Santa Claus of your lives & thank them for always being there… yesterday, today & tomorrow! Sometimes, it’s not so late to express your love through words, hugs or just a smile :) 

Merry X’mas !